Monday, June 25, 2007

Are You Out!



z: Are you Out?
x: I'm out to some, my brothers in law, and some of my straight friends.

z: wow, kooool, how did they take it?
x: well,they are okay with it,one of my straight friends just asked me
not to talk about it with him.

z: how did it make you feel?
x: I'm okay with it,we are still good buddies

z: why did you tell them?
x: I really wanted to share it with my friends, there were times when my
straight friend,I,and my boyfriend at the time used to hang out a lot
together.It was really uncomfortable cuz my bf & I couldn't be ourselves.

z: Do your parents know?
x: well,my mom sure suspects it,as they say mothers usually the first to
know. Dad, I tried to tell him few months ago but backed up last minute
when he said it's still socially unacceptable.He thinks homosexuality is
deviation. I think he would be okay with it more than my mom.

x: Do you feel like telling them?
z: Well,I will eventually tell my old man. My mom has this fantasy of me
getting married and have kids and whatever.I hate to be the one to ruin
that fantasy for her besides she knows I'won't get married or anything.

x: Does anyone in your work place know about you?
z: Not really.I'm out to one of my colleagues. He's gay too. I knew about
him through a mutual gay friend so I came out to him. I don't see a
point of coming out in the work place or to be socially involoved with
colleagues cuz then it would be mixing business with pleasure.

x: How do you feel about those who want to come out?
z: If you are still studing I don't advise you to do it especially coming
out to family members, at least you have to be financially independent.
At the work place, if you weren't sleeping with them why would you tell
them. Friends, depends how close you are with them besideds we gays
usually like to be friends with other gays than straights.

4 comments:

mthlykaweyy said...

هاى على مقال
جميل انا مثلى قوى
اتمنه فى يوم من الايام ان كل الناس تعرف عن المثليين افضل وحت
وحتى اهاليهم يعرفوا انهم
مثليين
ويعيشوا حياتهم بشكل طبيعى
واتمنى لك السعاده
ياجميل واسمحلى اعاكسك
انا بحب البلاك اوى ده تيبى المفضل
باى ياجميل ومستنى موضوعك القادم
تحياتى

Anonymous said...

dear ali
i think whoever comes out to his family members and friends is such a courageous person but then we cant condemn those who r not out because people differs and their preception of things also differ
i admire those who have the guts to go to their family members or friends and tell them
i wished i was able to do this with my siblings and mom
it will be such a liberating experience at least i wont have to pretend im ok when im heart broken after a breakup for example but what u said is right we have to be first independant and very careful to whom we r talking so as not to get ourselves into trouble
people reactions can be so harsh and unpredictable regarding this issue so we should be prepared to face the consequences and if we r not ready enough so we better keep it till we r ready
thank u for the impressive post:-)

Ali said...

سلام مثلي قوي

اتمنى جد ان نعيش كلنا في افضل الاحوال

ومسموح لك يامان تعاكسني زي ما عاوز
هو انا طايل و شكرا جزيلا على تشجيعك المستمر لينا كلنا

Ali said...

Hello اجندا حمرا

You know what, I haven't thought of coming out to family or to colleagues before but as I get older I find myself more relaxed about who I am. And I just feel like sharing it, thats all


Thanks very much....