Thursday, April 17, 2008

Gay barebacking



"I have a question, after all the gay community has been through
why are we putting people
at risk?!"



I guess we all know the risk of unprotected sex !

I guess lots of us think oral sex is safe !

I guess what we all care about is the fun of finding
someone to take to bed !

I guess we find our sexual partners so desirable and
forget to ask if they have any STDs !

I guess in the heat of the moment all we we want to do
is just to feel the real thing !

I guess in the heat of the moment all we want is a taste
of the real thing!

I guess we don't care about them and most importantly
we don't care about ourselves!


Do you think it is right to ask your sexual partners about
their sexual medical history?

STDs=Sexual Transmitted Diseases



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The following is heart-felt comment from Allan on this issue

Please, everyone, it is not a matter of honesty or trust. It is a matter of life and death. Your own life, your own death.

Yes, it is very awkward to ask about HIV status or STDs. Yes, in "the heat of the moment" it is not a subject many will bring up. Yes, people do not always tell the truth. You will never know until it is too late, if they lie to you.

This is exactly why there is only one way to have sex if we value our lives. We must always carry condoms, and we must always use a condom.

Although it is not exactly 100% safe even with condoms, it is very close. Although condoms do not protect against most STDs, most STDs can be treated easily, even if it is embarassing to talk to your doctor about it.

There is no need to explain to your doctor where or how you might have picked up an STD. Even heterosexuals try some sexual games and catch STDs. As a result, there are always doctors who will maintain your confidentiality if they treat you for an STD.

HIV and AIDS are blamed mostly on gay sexual activities, although in most parts of the world it is mostly heterosexuals who are HIV+.

Please, please, please use a condom every time. Do not trust anyone's word when it comes to putting your life in their hands. Do not let low self esteem allow you to throw away the rest of your life. It is absolutely not worth it to have unprotected sex. A very slight increase in sensation, if that is one of your excuses, is absolutely not worth becoming infected for the rest of your life with HIV.

Barebacking is selfish and stupid. There is no excuse for putting yourself and your friends and family through such a deadly trauma as HIV progressing to AIDS.

We humans are imperfect, and people do lie. Even the best of wives, husbands, lovers and friends sometimes cheat sexually. Please love yourself and take care of yourself.

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

dear ali

look ali i have always supported what u said about being honest with our partners about our sexual background and life
but let us be realistic and from what we see in movies and tv series
anyone for example who have aids doesnt say because he knows that nobody will understand so he lies
honesty isnt there anymore my friend
i wish it was that easy

my best regards to you ali

Gay by Nature said...
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Gay by Nature said...

Is it ok to ask your sex partner about his sexual medical history?

Absolutely, but the problem if he didnt give accurate information, I watched an episode on Montel show I believe about a gay guy who slept four guys and when one of them ask him about sexual medical history told him he is CLEAN !!

OmanLion said...

the question is ; who will dare to ask his sexual partner is he is clean or not?? mostly, no one will do that at the First time cause of the heat of the moment. in the 2nd, well some thoughts will come over and maybe they will start wondering if their partner are clean. then they May ask, in the 3rd time :).

Jobove - Reus said...

very good blog, congratulations
regard from Catalonia Spain
thank you

Ali said...

Hello Agenda 7amra,

I'm for the delay to respond.

Well Agenda, I refuse to accept that honesty doesn't exist anymore. If the person is HIV+ and doesn't tell the whole world about his situation no problem but the problem is when that person goes into a sexual relationship and doesn't inform his partner about his case, that's morally and legally unacceptable.


thanks...

Ali said...

hey gay by nature,

Big sorry for the delay to respond, dude.....

Well, common Marwan, when was the last time someone asked u if you have anything before going to bed?!!!!!!!. The idea of asking the question doesn't exist in our societies, and that's the problem.

Yes, lots of people don't tell the truth but lots of them also don't know even they have STDs because taking tests is other taboo here.

thanks....

Ali said...

Hello omanlion,

I'm sorry for the delay to reply to your comment.

Well, you make it sound like, won't get the virus on the 1st or 2nd time which is completely untrue. I think the question should be when was your last test after the question of if they have anything you should know about.

thanks....

Ali said...

Hello té la mà maria - reus,

Thank you very much. I really appreciate it.



Thanks again...

Allan said...

This is an excellent post on a subject which does not get enough discussion in my opinion.

Please, everyone, it is not a matter of honesty or trust. It is a matter of life and death. Your own life, your own death.

Yes, it is very awkward to ask about HIV status or STDs. Yes, in "the heat of the moment" it is not a subject many will bring up. Yes, people do not always tell the truth. You will never know until it is too late, if they lie to you.

This is exactly why there is only one way to have sex if we value our lives. We must always carry condoms, and we must always use a condom.

Although it is not exactly 100% safe even with condoms, it is very close. Although condoms do not protect against most STDs, most STDs can be treated easily, even if it is embarassing to talk to your doctor about it.

There is no need to explain to your doctor where or how you might have picked up an STD. Even heterosexuals try some sexual games and catch STDs. As a result, there are always doctors who will maintain your confidentiality if they treat you for an STD.

HIV and AIDS are blamed mostly on gay sexual activities, although in most parts of the world it is mostly heterosexuals who are HIV+.

Please, please, please use a condom every time. Do not trust anyone's word when it comes to putting your life in their hands. Do not let low self esteem allow you to throw away the rest of your life. It is absolutely not worth it to have unprotected sex. A very slight increase in sensation, if that is one of your excuses, is absolutely not worth becoming infected for the rest of your life with HIV.

Barebacking is selfish and stupid. There is no excuse for putting yourself and your friends and family through such a deadly trauma as HIV progressing to AIDS.

We humans are imperfect, and people do lie. Even the best of wives, husbands, lovers and friends sometimes cheat sexually. Please love yourself and take care of yourself.

I love you gays (more than I love heterosexuals, sorry!) even though I don't know you. I am your gay brother.

I ask you to please demonstrate that you love yourself also, and the gift of being alive, by using condoms every single time you have sex with anyone.

karen said...

Do you ever feel that you are expected to conform to different gender roles? Or that you have to act a different way? I feel like biologically we are all the same, but society expects us to conform and act a certain way according to "who we are". Also how do you feel about gay women? I completely agree about protection for sex. Honesty isnt easy whether you are a man or a women, straight or gay.

Ali said...

Hello Allan,

thank you very much for your heart-felt comment. I hope you don't mind me posting it on the main post.


thanks...

ali

Ali said...

hey Karen,

I guess you are right society expect from genders to act in certain ways. I hate to admit that I was one of those who posed society's views about gender act on my best transexual friend, I completely regret it now.

Recently, I met a fellow native lesbian and we are becoming real close. I learnt a lot about lesbians from her and I thank her for that. I love lesbians, I watch The L Word, lol.....


cheers.....

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